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Parenting is one of the most difficult and rewarding jobs on the face of the earth. Yet, it is often the one we are least prepared for. These nine parenting tips may give you more enjoyment and more purpose in raising your children.
1. Build Your Child's Self-Esteem
Children begin to develop their self-esteem in infancy, depending on how they feel when people react. Your tone, body language, and every expression will count. Praise them, no matter how small the achievement is. That builds in them a sense of pride and independence. Conversely, harsh criticism or comparison can destroy that self-worth.
Avoid uttering negative words like, "What a moronic move!" Instead, use the right choice of words with empathy by explaining that mistakes are part of learning and that your love for them is unwavering even when you are not happy about their actions.
2. Appreciate Good Behavior
It is so easy to notice bad behavior, but how often do you pay attention to good behavior? Writing down your praises like "Good work making your bed!" motivates to good actions. Children will soon learn to listen for and respond to praise more readily than constant criticism. Schedule time for praise each day and be lavish in affection. Often, love and approval are the best awards.
3. Establishing Boundaries Defined Limits and Consistency: Children need to be taught what is good behavior and what is not, and discipline can be achieved only with the help of boundaries. However much they may resist it, children need defined limitations so that they can grow up as mature individuals.
Create house rules, such as "no TV until homework is done" or "no hitting or name-calling." Consistency is key-don't let behavior slide one day and punish it the next. Clear, predictable consequences teach them what is expected.
4. Quality Time
It is hard to have time for family when you have a busy schedule, but such times can often be quality times that children will crave the most. Simple changes, such as having breakfast together or taking a walk after dinner, can really make huge differences. Children who feel overlooked may act out to just get your attention.
Create special moments, like family night where you allow your kids to help pick the activity. Even simple things, like leaving a note in their lunchbox, show that you care. To teens, showing you are there to talk or showing up at their functions demonstrates you are interested and help solidify your relationship with them.
5. Be a Positive Role Model
Children learn by watching their parents. Think about your own behavior—are you happy to have your child mimic it? Study research shows that children who strike others in most cases have a model of violence in the home. Show behaviors you want your children to emulate: respect, kindness, honesty, and patience. Praise, thank, and be generous. Treat your children as you like others to treat you.
6. Communicate Effectively
Children also need you to explain your reasoning as adults do. When you do not explain your reasons, they will often argue with your values and authority. Reasoning with children promotes understanding and learning in a facilitative manner. As you set up expectations describe the problem share your feelings and come up with solutions together. Be open to their proposals and leave space for bargaining. Involving your children in making decisions encourages them to act.
7. Flexibility as a Parent
In case you feel disappointed by your child's attitude all the time, then it is high time to adapt some adjustments. Ask yourself whether the goals that you have set for your child are realistic; if not, probably you need to consult other fellow parents or child development experts. The surroundings of a child influence attitude-except in the case of those who take long to adapt and can perform miraculously with small adjustments.
Because a child grows through different stages, you have to change your ways of parenting. What may work with toddlers is probably not to be used with teens. For example, teenagers still need you but often look for peer-defined norms. In most cases, those peers will be less mature than your child.
8. Show Unconditional Love
In parenting, guide and correct your children. But it's very important on how you carry out the actions. Don't blame or criticize them; these actions can bring down their self-esteem. Give encouragements to them, and remind them that your love will always be constant, though you don't like their behavior at a certain time. Let them know that while you expect much better the next time, your love does not change.
9. Recognize Your Own Needs
No one is a perfect parent. Identify what works and what does not for you. Realistically set expectations from yourself, your partner, and your children. You do not have to know everything. Be compassionate and give yourself space when you can't cope. Spending time with your self-care is not selfish; it sets an excellent example for healthy self-care in your children.
With these steps, you can not only make your parenting process much better but also improve your relation with your kids as well.